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Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Something I found

If a Man Wants You


This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can't "be friends."

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allowhim to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

 

Share this with other ladies.

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

 

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Learning experience

Every failed relationship is a learning experience. Every current relationship is a learning experience whether it be romantic or platonic. But within each relationship you have remain at a point that you are willing to let it go if it's not fit for you. Then and only then can you take the power back. Take control of your heart and mind back. Ive learned allot over the past few months and I'm thankful for that. For the good and the bad. It has truly pushed me in the direction of deep soul searching and drawing me to want that relationship with God again. That's where I found my true peace before in my life. Not in man but in God. No love for any human being should be greater than the love you have for God.
So I'm asking God continuously for wisdom and understanding. To send me in the direction that he sees fit for me. To create relationships that are healthy and are balanced. But before I open myself to any romantic relationships for him to work on me first. Then to guide me in his direction on his timing.
I'm praying for these bricks to be lifted off of my heart, because Love shouldn't hurt.
Submitting completely to his will

LoveShirl

Sunday, December 11, 2011

My shoes

People don't ever put themselves in your shoes and take the time to realize how much their actions hurt you.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Cancer

You hurt me.
You stole my future my innocence my everything.
And the hate that I first grew for you is like a cancer. It was cut out and I got better then some where in there was a tiny piece that grew again. It engulfed my heart , crushed my soul and swallowed my self esteem.
Then I got better.
But today I'm sick again!
The cancer is back and like before I hate you!
I hate the very air that you breath because I know that some where along the line it will pass through me. Feeding the cancer and slowly kill me inside.
You hurt me , you murdered me.
So today I'm struggling because every relapse that I overcome I grow stronger.
So I'm asking God today fill my cup , to top off my strength so that will have one drop to much to fight you today.
To fight the spirit that has filled you evil soul!

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Why?

-Why can't we as human beings live in a world where constant games aren't required to sustain a some what healthy relationship?
-Why do egos constantly need stroking?
-Why can't I say how much I love you on any given day as a release of an overfilled pot, with out it becoming misconstrued and taken as a sign of weakness?
-Why are the good times great and the bad times... Well just bad?
-Why does my smile wonder how long it's going to last? & my frowns never seem to go away fast?
-Why do I constantly worry for others but wonder if anyone worries for me?
-Why do I want to give some much?
-Why does doing for others feel so great? But doing for myself always seems to come too late?
-Why does this thing called love drive you so crazy?

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Love Sick


I'm nauseous with guilt,
and aching with Love,

Purely painfully filled with emotion,
Throwing up gallons of devotion,
Lying on a love song,
While my world is spinning so wrong,

Stumbling on words
Resuscitation. Heart filled curds of,

Love Choking on Realities mixed with 12 shots of imagination,
Breath...
Chest rising gasping for diamond filled glittery endings,
Breath..
Exhale..
Fainting under the spell of gut clenching butterflies
Breath
Breath

Flat lined on Love Reaching for whimsical clouds
Smothering applauding heart strings , singing crowds..

 Breath...............

Monday, November 7, 2011

I'll take the blame.
That was way to easy but I'll take that blame.
I'll say what no one else wanted to say and I'll go through the pain.
I'll take the blame